How much do you think you wait before things miraculously improve? When will you stop believing in empty promises and you start to trust in what is clear in front of your eyes? Are you ready to live a relationship in which loyalty is not obvious, but always questioned?
If at least once you have asked yourself one of these questions in silence, you are already halfway towards the answer. Loyalty is not something you should implore. It is a fundamental necessity, not a luxury. If someone continues to find excuses and hiding things, you don’t need other tests: you only need the courage to admit the truth.
The relationships in which they reign secrecy and distrust are not only tiring, but also toxic.
Every answer must be forced. Every gaze you take while turning. Every night, waiting for a message that never arrives. These are not normal relational problems. These are alarms.. And when they play, it is wise to listen to them.
Check the naked and raw facts. Here are the signals not to ignore:
The phone is its fortress.
If the screen hides from your eyes as if it were hiding a state secretthis is one of the simplest and most powerful signals. Note if he always turns the phone down, if he takes him with him to the bathroom, if he quickly replies to the messages by turning his back and suddenly becomes tense every time a message arrives: you know that he is hiding something.
No loving and loyal partner needs hiding places. If I were honest, I could safely leave the phone on the table, open, without fear of seeing something questionable. If his body instinctively stiffens to any noise of the device, then believe me, it is not without reason.
You never know where it is and with whom.
If his days become foggy, his mysterious evenings, his confused programsyou are already in the middle of a game where the only rule is concealment. A man who wants to be with you includes you in his life. Indicates where it is going, who is there, what it is doing.
However, if despite your questions you only receive superficial answers such as “nothing special” or “we will see”, it means that it has a good reason why you don’t want you to know too much. Silence, evasion and unanswered questions are not innocent. They constitute a protection against the discovery of a truth that can go to its detriment.
Comparisons that you did not ask
If he puts you next to other women, whether they are ex, celebrities or unknown – Remember one thing: a real man does not compare you. If you hear “you could be more similar to her” or that “she does it better”, it means that you are in a relationship in which you are just an improvement project for your partner, not a person who really appreciates.
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The comparisons are a poison for self -esteem. They are a thin form of manipulation that makes you feel as if you were to compete to obtain basic attention. True love does not measure, does not compare, does not evaluate. True love accepts.
Fear of the “Relationship” label
If it panics only to the mention of the words “partner” or “relationship”this is a clear sign that is avoiding the obligations. You may feel excuses of the type “they don’t want to be in a hurry”, “they simply enjoy the moment” or “hate labels”.
Don’t make you take. Anyone who wants to be yours does not need ten reasons why he cannot admit the relationship. The only real answer is: “I want to be with you”. If you are not officially together, you don’t have anything in his eyes. And this is exactly what he suits him.
It acts impulsively, reacts like a child
If what he feels at that moment is increasingly important for him than he built with youlive with an unpredictable person. Impulsiveness is dangerous in love. Since the impulses know no boundaries, they know no consequences. Today it is infatuated with you, tomorrow of someone else. A man who cannot control himself will never be faithful.
He doesn’t want to show you to the world.
If you say nothing about you in front of his friends and does not want to take photos, be careful. Whoever loves wants to prove it. It is not hiding. Does not cancel the tracks. If he is afraid that someone finds out your relationship, then something is wrong. Maybe he is hiding another relationship. Maybe he is leaving the door open to others.
In any case, a person who does not recognize you in his life does not deserve you in his future.
