Why insist when you are unhappy? What are you really afraid of: of solitude, change, of the unknown? Did you convince yourself that it would be better if I waited a little longer? How many of your dreams, objectives and joys have you sacrificed to preserve something that has long since lost its meaning?
Recognizing that you need to go is difficult. But remaining even knowing this is even worse. Love is not an excuse to suffer. No attachment justifies forgotten needs, repressed pain and an influenced identity.
If it is only the fear that brakes you in a relationship – fear of solitude, change, of the unknown – then it is no longer love. It is a habit. It’s an excuse. And every day that remains is a new betrayal of yourself.
Fear is curbed, not love.
If you remain in a relationship for fear and not for love, then you have not been really present for a long time. The fear of solitude can paralyze you. The will, courage and energy steals you. But it is important to know that if you remain only out of fear, it only freezes the pain, you don’t care.
If you are in the relationship, where you feel constantly insecure, unhappy or neglected, you have to truth. And the truth is that you deserve more.
Comfort is a trap, not a solution
A family environment, even if painful, seems safer than risk. But it is the convenience that keeps you trapped in misery. Getting used to emptiness is dangerous. Learning to live without happiness is not a victory. This is a silent capitulation. If you stay unhappy because you’re used to an unhappy daily life, it means that you are refusing all the possibilities that could make you alive.
Courage does not consist in remaining in the family member. Courage is to choose yourself when it is more difficult.
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Your value is bigger than the relationship that is destroying you.
If you have overcome all the obstacles of the past, why give up yourself right now? Every progress made in life, every lesson learned, is a testimony of your strength. A wrong attitude does not cancel your value. Forget about her.
If you find yourself in a relationship in which you constantly, but you don’t receive anything, then it’s time to remember: to love does not mean giving up yourself.
Yes, leave will be painful. But the pain will be a transition
Going means to cross the threshold of pain that leads to freedom. Of course it will be difficult. Leaving a family environment and breaking the ties that once warmed you is painful. But this pain heals. Every day when you choose yourself, heal yourself. Every step that takes you away from a wrong relationship brings you closer to the life you deserve.
There is no right time. There is only one decision.
If you wait for the perfect moment to leave, you will wait in vain. There will always be a reason to wait: birthdays, promises, shared projects. There will always be something that will try to convince you to stay a little longer. But the truth is simple: the decision to leave does not depend on time. It depends on you.
When you realize that you want more, and when you finally allow you, you will find the courage you have always brought within you.
